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Why respectful debate makes society better

Gerry Chidiac

BY GERRY CHIDIAC

Lessons in Learning

A 2018 episode of Channel 4 News from the United Kingdom has become rather infamous. Canadian psychologist and professor Jordan Peterson is interviewed by Cathy Newman about his book 12 Rules of Life, feminism and gender identity.

Peterson has become very popular among those on the extreme right of the political spectrum. He has also been demonized by many on the left.

Some would characterize the interview as one where Peterson proved to the left that they were wrong and he was right. I find that view rather narrow.

Newman had done her homework before the interview. She was aware of the criticisms of Peterson and she zeroed in on those arguments. It was clear she made Peterson uncomfortable and, at one point, he even admitted as much.

Newman demonstrated her greatest skill as a journalist, however, when she allowed Peterson to respond to her queries. She gave him time to think and articulate himself, and she responded by further challenging his views.

At one stage, Peterson made his point so clear that Newman didn’t have a counterargument. While she appeared a bit embarrassed by this turn in the discourse, she graciously moved on to a new topic.

Particularly interesting is the public response to the interview. While Peterson was being celebrated, Newman received death threats and insults.

This is unfortunate because both Peterson and Newman did an excellent job in promoting civil, public discourse. Some argue that Newman wasn’t actually listening to Peterson but kept repeating the same questions, distorting what he actually said for the sake of promoting her agenda.

While I can’t speak to the interviewer’s intention, I appreciate her willingness to engage in a public debate with a very intelligent and well-spoken individual, and even to risk looking foolish.

In our polarized world, many of us have become very defensive of our views. This is evidenced in social media, on television and even in our educational institutions. We seem to think that acknowledging the legitimacy of someone else’s argument makes us weak or stupid.

The most confident and competent people among us, however, are also the best listeners. They know their ideas don’t define who they are as humans, that their opinions can change but their intrinsic value doesn’t.

It’s magical when we engage in intelligent and respectful debate with others. Our views are challenged, so we have to articulate our perspectives more clearly. Ideally, the other party is doing the same. We may have to take a break and gather evidence to strengthen our arguments, but isn’t that all part of the excitement?

I recently discussed my attitudes toward this sort of discussion with my 88-year-old father. As I was growing up, we had many differing perspectives and shared them. I was a young socialist and he was an executive with a multinational corporation. Behind our often loud and heated disagreements there was always love and respect, an appreciation of the other person and where their views came from. I trusted my father enough to doubt my own views and this honest humility has served me well.

My family still engages in boisterous debates and I’m forever grateful for this loving discourse.

The world is full of problems and questions, and no one has all the right answers. I think even Peterson would agree, however, that the greatest legacy we can leave for the world is not being right but showing respect for our neighbour, thus bringing humanity a little closer to wisdom.

Gerry Chidiac is an award-winning high school teacher specializing in languages, genocide studies and work with at-risk students. Check out his website here. Find him on Facebook. Or on Twitter @GerryChidiac

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