BY DENISE TORGERSON
Prince George Hospice
I know we call it end of life care. I know that and understand the reasons why. I would like to change it though to “At This Point In Your Life Care.” Because you see, our guests are still living. They are all at different stages of their lives, but they are still alive.
When I think in terms of “at this point in your life,” I pay more attention to what is needed right now to give comfort or solace. I think in terms of questions and curiosity instead of a medical model or a theory.
At this point in your life, what would you like me to do for you?
At this point in your life, what would you like to talk about?
At this point in your life, what are your concerns?
At this point in your life, are you feeling pain?
At this point of your life, do you want many visitors?
At this point of your life, may I just sit quietly with you and hold your hand?
At this point in your life, do you have the energy to tell me about your history? Would you like to?
At this point in your life, can I make you some food?
At this point in your life, can I get a Care Aid to come and assist you?
At this point in your life, how can I alleviate the burden you are carrying?
At this point in your life, what do you hope for?
At this point in your life, what do you value?
At this point of your life, what inspires you?
Oh boy, I could go on and on with questions. My point is that we are all living now AND we are all dying now. The time line is different for all of us. The opposite of death is not life. The opposite of death is birth – life is what happens in between.
We think of Hospice as end of life care. Yes, that is what our Hospice House is focused on, but Hospice is a philosophy of care that can start long before someone enters Hospice House.
So, if you or your loved one is dealing with a life limiting illness at this point in your life. Hospice can help. We would be honored to be a part of your support system. We have programs for patients as well as for family members or friends who are walking with the patient – at this point in their life.
I believe it takes a village to help someone die.
And so, a gentle reminder that Hospice House and our Solace Center is a part of your village.
How can we support you – at this point in your life?
